Oh those cute Mini Coopers. Kathryn always wanted one. They remind me of her each time I see one. So small and cute just like her. I can always picture her driving one or standing next to one.
I had an appointment with a Hip Doctor. I had scheduled one for another doctor but he wasn’t available until the 14th of May. So I did a bit of searching and found one that is in the same orthopedic office as my ex-neighbor. This doctor was available on Wednesday the 24th. I took the appointment. I talked to Scott about it and he said that is Paige’s Dad. Paige is a friend of Kathryn’s. They met at SOTA (School of the Arts) where Kathryn went to school 10th through 12th grade. When I met the doctor I told him who I was. He remembered Kathryn so well. He said they always enjoyed having Kathryn over to their house. Then he told me that he would be going out of town in two weeks until the first of June to go to Paige’s graduation in Massachusetts. Kathryn would have been graduating this spring and starting her adult life. Paige wants to work with nonprofit organizations. I told her Dad that I would think Kathryn had some influence on that and he thought maybe she did. Paige was on Kathryn’s Relay for Life Team for three years. I saw her at Relay last year too. She has grown into a wonderful young lady. Kathryn would have been asking the hospital about working as a child life specialist. She probably would have gained employment at Children’s. With the new cancer-building opening, there will be positions to fill. I watched the telethon about it last night. She would probably have found someone to room with in Seattle. I would have wanted her to find employment in Tacoma at Mary Bridge and maybe she would have. Well, I found it ironic that I should switch doctors and get Paige’s Dad. We chatted for a while. He’s a very nice man and very understanding. I trust he will do a good job on my hip replacement.
I also received some news about Rowan this week. I was not excited to hear what is going on. She has a new spot showing up in her brain. It could be necrosis from radiation. This would be the best as long as it doesn’t get any worse. This is when the brain tissue dies from radiation. It can happen years down the road. They say it never comes back but I have read where dead brain tissue has come back or new cells have grown. The other thing it could be is a cancerous lesion. This would not be good at all. That would mean the lesion is made up of different types of cells that are resistant to her current treatment. That is what happened in Kathryn’s case. This is what can happen with Glio’s. They are smart little beasts that change their make up when they come back. You never know what will work on them. If surgery isn’t an option then the doctors don’t have any idea of what course of action to take. Rowan’s tumor is on her brain stem and no doctor will operate. The final one that Kathryn had was also too close to the brain stem so surgery was not an option. Please pray for Rowan. She is the sweetest little girl and has the nicest parents. They deserve a beautiful life together.
Our friend who had all of the seizures went home on Friday. She is a fighter and is recovering. She will do great!
Yesterday (Saturday) Scott and I went to a tech session for the Porsche Club in the morning. It was nice to see people I haven’t seen for a while. I was talking to one man and Kathryn came up in the conversation. He said Kathryn was the best child he has ever met. He was so sincere. He has a child too but he said that she was the best and made that clear. He really thought a lot of her and thought she was truly a wonderful person, the best. I have to agree. When Kathryn was a live I don’t think I realized just how wonderful she was. I was her Mom always working on directing her to be a good person. I realize now that she did become that wonderful person long, long ago. I didn’t have to work very hard at all to help her develop into this person. She was a gift from Heaven and she was Heavenly. I guess our Hawaiian friend who gave her the name Kahiwalani (Gift from Heaven) knew who she was even as an infant.
Richard has also grown so much. He is working in a couple of classrooms. He even volunteered to work with the “Bad Kids.” He said, “They aren’t really bad, they are just like I was in school.” They are getting their work done. He said they are just from unfortunate situations with families that aren’t like ours. He said that people in the Ed classes don’t understand that these kids don’t have families that make sure they do their homework. They don’t have those nagging parents like they all did. He said that if he didn’t have Scott and me as parents he would have turned out a whole lot different. A couple of the college students in one of his classes did a research project on who has the most influence on kids. He told me that I would be happy to know that I was right when I said it is the parents that make or break a kid. Their research found that the parents are the most influential people in a kid’s life. Well it's obvious! We as teachers are only a tiny part of their lives. Yes, I have influence kids to do better despite their parents. Yes, I have talked to students about adopting out babies, not committing suicide, doing what is right for themselves, working hard to be successful, leaving your friends behind sometimes because they will drag you down. Sharing my own stories about life and how to not get pulled the wrong direction. Both Scott and I could have been in lots of trouble if we didn’t have parents that taught us right form wrong and the hard work is what it takes to be successful. To be proud of your work and to give to others. My favorite saying is, "Be the Bigger Person." I have used this line a lot with both Richard and Kathryn. That means to give in if it saves you from an argument. It means to help others. Some times it means to not get what you want to make someone else happy.
Richard is also going to a big seminar for Siblings of children with life threatening illnesses. Bee will be going with him. He explained to his professor that he would have to miss part of the class that day. Richard made arrangements for things to work out the best he could for his work and his partners work before talking to the professor. The professor said he would still lose the points. Richard asked if he would still pass the class. The professor said yes. Richard will be missing class. This is very important to him. He can really be a positive influence for kids in this situation. The same situation he lived with since he was 12. Bee also knows this position in life. I’m glad he is choosing to go to the sibling seminar even if his grade will drop. He knows what is important to him and what will help him help others. He’s a great person and I am so proud to call him my son.
The Kathryn “Panda” Bradley store closes May 2nd. So order your t-shirts. Remember all proceeds go to Camp Goodtimes West.
Make it a great day!