Thoughts and Good from Cancer 7-17-12
I think I have become more aware of things in the last few months. I don’t know why things have been placed in front of me but they come and I listen.
I mentioned about girls having babies and not loving them or wanting them. Well yesterday after walking I took a little break before I got started on a project. There on the TV was a show about three young girls that were pregnant and in a place where they would work with them to help them find a family for their babies. All three girls gave up their babies and it was probably the best thing they could have done for these little guys. They were able to chose the family, meet the family and have an open or closed adoption. One girl said all she had to her name was four suitcases of clothes. She had no home, no car and no job. She also had a one year old. I wondered how she would ever raise this little girl. No men in the picture for any of these young women. They all bailed.
I’ve also noticed lately that there are a lot of young people getting into BIG trouble. I have read over and over again in the paper about 14 to 18 year olds beating people to death and robbing people. It is so sad. My kids were at home or we knew where they were and what they were doing. How do parents let their kids get so out of line? Don’t they teach them to love others and Do on to others as you would want others to do onto you? The Golden Rule!
I also had a friend write about how people seem to shy away when you tell them you have cancer. Kathryn’s friends never left her and never bailed on her but I have been told about this before. September of 2011 I went to the Ride for Kids. At this event a Dad spoke about how his neighbors would not come over any more. How all of their friends left them. I really thought this was so bad. He said that their friends found it too sad to be around them. Oh my, they think it is sad. They are not living with it every day. They are not there 24 – 7. Please don’t ever leave a friend alone because you find their illness sad. We need to rally around our friends and support them. I must say we have very good friends and family. We never felt that we were alone. We had tremendous support. And I thank all of you for this. The support has continued and I so appreciate it. We all appreciate the support.
I sent out to the staff at my school not to be afraid to talk to me or even ask questions about Kathryn. I said I may shed a tear or two but I don’t want you to be afraid to approach me. I don’t want people talking about me behind me saying that poor woman. The few times I have been at school and one staff function they have been great! I think letting people know that I don’t want to be ignored or treated as if I have some contagious disease really helped. Now they know that I can be approached and I am fine with talking about Kathryn or any things else.
A friend also posted a video about a man, Zach Smith, who believes cancer is the best thing that ever happened to him. He will die of his cancer. He is at the point that it has spread and consumed too much of his body to be fixed. He has three children and a beautiful wife. He was diagnosed at 32 in 2009 with stage four colon cancer. It went away but came back in his liver, splean and other areas. I suppose he has already passed as he made the video at age 33 and he expected that would be his last Christmas. He was a strong Christian. He believed cancer mad him a better husband, Dad, Friend, boss, and follower of God. He also believed that God has a plan and God is good so this must be in the plan. This reminds me of my friend telling me how she prayed about Kathryn to get an answer to why and God said her duty was done. Another friend told me that God answered his friend by saying sometimes I take the cancer from the person and sometimes I take the person from the cancer. Kathryn did a lot in her short life. She encouraged and inspired others to be better people. She taught me a lot. He heart was open and very giving.
Kathryn believed cancer gave her open eyes. She believed it gave her a heart full of love to share with others. Cancer certainly does open your eyes to see what is important in life. Since Kathryn’s passing we have helped many people and we will continue to do so. I believe Scott and I have become more generous with our time and money. There was a song that I learned as a little girl and some of the words are: “Love is something if you give it away – It’s just like a shinny penny, hold it tight and you won’t have any – spend it lend it and you’ll have so many they will roll all over the floor. So giving away your love to others create more. It is so very true.
One last thing. Our neighborhood is having a garage sale on August 4th and 5th. If you would like to get rid of a few things I would be happy to sell them at the garage sale. I am giving the proceeds to Rowan Baker for her life saving treatments. She is the little girl we met in Houston. Her parents have almost exhausted all of their options and need financial help. She is only 3 years old and has lived way beyond the life expectancy for this type of brain tumor (brain stem glioma). And her tumor is shrinking. She is on her way to a long and happy life. Give me a call if you have something to donate to the garage sale. 253-318-7790
Have a super day!