Thoughts and Good from Cancer 7-17-12
I think I have become more aware of things in the last few
months. I don’t know why things
have been placed in front of me but they come and I listen.
I mentioned about girls having babies and not loving them or
wanting them. Well yesterday after
walking I took a little break before I got started on a project. There on the TV was a show about three
young girls that were pregnant and in a place where they would work with them
to help them find a family for their babies. All three girls gave up their babies and it was probably the
best thing they could have done for these little guys. They were able to chose the family,
meet the family and have an open or closed adoption. One girl said all she had to her name was four suitcases of
clothes. She had no home, no car
and no job. She also had a one
year old. I wondered how she would
ever raise this little girl. No
men in the picture for any of these young women. They all bailed.
I’ve also noticed lately that there are a lot of young
people getting into BIG trouble. I
have read over and over again in the paper about 14 to 18 year olds beating
people to death and robbing people.
It is so sad. My kids were
at home or we knew where they were and what they were doing. How do parents let their kids get so
out of line? Don’t they teach them
to love others and Do on to others as you would want others to do onto you? The Golden Rule!
I also had a friend write about how people seem to shy away
when you tell them you have cancer.
Kathryn’s friends never left her and never bailed on her but I have been
told about this before. September
of 2011 I went to the Ride for Kids.
At this event a Dad spoke about how his neighbors would not come over
any more. How all of their friends
left them. I really thought this
was so bad. He said that their
friends found it too sad to be around them. Oh my, they think it is sad. They are not living with it every day. They are not there 24 – 7. Please don’t ever leave a friend alone
because you find their illness sad.
We need to rally around our friends and support them. I must say we have very good friends
and family. We never felt that we
were alone. We had tremendous
support. And I thank all of you
for this. The support has continued
and I so appreciate it. We all
appreciate the support.
I sent out to the staff at my school not to be afraid to
talk to me or even ask questions about Kathryn. I said I may shed a tear or two but I don’t want you to be
afraid to approach me. I don’t
want people talking about me behind me saying that poor woman. The few times I have been at school and
one staff function they have been great!
I think letting people know that I don’t want to be ignored or treated
as if I have some contagious disease really helped. Now they know that I can be approached and I am fine with
talking about Kathryn or any things else.
A friend also posted a video about a man, Zach Smith, who
believes cancer is the best thing that ever happened to him. He will die of his cancer. He is at the point that it has spread
and consumed too much of his body to be fixed. He has three children and a beautiful wife. He was diagnosed at 32 in 2009 with
stage four colon cancer. It went
away but came back in his liver, splean and other areas. I suppose he has already passed as he
made the video at age 33 and he expected that would be his last Christmas. He was a strong Christian. He believed cancer mad him a better
husband, Dad, Friend, boss, and follower of God. He also believed that God has a plan and God is good so this
must be in the plan. This reminds
me of my friend telling me how she prayed about Kathryn to get an answer to why
and God said her duty was done. Another
friend told me that God answered his friend by saying sometimes I take the
cancer from the person and sometimes I take the person from the cancer. Kathryn did a lot in her short
life. She encouraged and inspired
others to be better people. She
taught me a lot. He heart was open
and very giving.
Kathryn believed cancer gave her open eyes. She believed it gave her a heart full
of love to share with others.
Cancer certainly does open your eyes to see what is important in
life. Since Kathryn’s passing we
have helped many people and we will continue to do so. I believe Scott and I have become more
generous with our time and money.
There was a song that I learned as a little girl and some of the words
are: “Love is something if you give it away – It’s just like a shinny penny,
hold it tight and you won’t have any – spend it lend it and you’ll have so many
they will roll all over the floor.
So giving away your love to others create more. It is so very true.
One last thing.
Our neighborhood is having a garage sale on August 4th and 5th. If you would like to get rid of a few
things I would be happy to sell them at the garage sale. I am giving the proceeds to Rowan Baker
for her life saving treatments.
She is the little girl we met in Houston. Her parents have almost exhausted all of their options and
need financial help. She is only 3
years old and has lived way beyond the life expectancy for this type of brain
tumor (brain stem glioma). And her
tumor is shrinking. She is on her
way to a long and happy life. Give
me a call if you have something to donate to the garage sale. 253-318-7790
Have a super day!
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