Good News/Bad News 5-24-12
I guess I couldn’t bring myself to write this bad news yesterday or last night. I opened my cousin Lori’s Husband’s Cainbridge page yesterday to get some terrible news. For those of you who don’t know what a Cainbridge page is – It is a webpage that is free to post what is going on with your health. It makes it easy to share without having to repeat yourself over and over. Anyhow I opened it to read that her husband, Rafer, had passed away just a few hours earlier. The tears just flowed. I just couldn’t believe it. Yet, I could. I had written about him before and I was praying for him. They have two small boys under 12 and older than 5. His cancer started in the sinuses and was a very rare form. He died at MD Anderson in Houston. I feel so bad for my cousin as now she is left to raise the two boys on her own. She has lost her partner and friend. Rafer will be ok as he had a strong connection with God. He will watch over Lori and I know she will be ok too. I don’t know if she will stay in Texas as her family is here and Rafer’s is in Idaho and Seattle. They moved down there for his work as a sports psychologist.
I also talked with the lady at the lab in my doctor’s office. She had known my family forever and her hubby went to school with me. She has had nine family members die in the past few years. Recently (2 weeks ago) her father and now she has no family left but a cousin who she only sees once in a while but they are determined to stay in touch. Her husband’s brother died just 2 months or so ago. They have had too much loss in their family.
Now for the good news. First my friend and I are finally meeting up for breakfast. It will be so nice to see her. She has such a positive attitude. This is her 6th round with cancer. She believes in seeking out and finding new methods to treat and distinguish this disease. She knows a cure could be just around the corner for her. She doesn’t let cancer defeat her. She faces it head on and continues to live as Kathryn chose to do as well.
Kathryn has also been selected to be the recipient of the Tom Mosich spirit award at the Tacoma Relay for Life. I don't know if I'm supposed to tell this or not. It will be presented to us on Saturday the 9th around 2:30. We are all honored to be able to accept this award on behalf of Kathryn. I only wish she would have won it last year when she was here and she could have been on stage herself. This is special to us because we knew Tom and Richard is close friends with his son Tommy. Kathryn made several luminary bags for Tom over the years. Tommy is the one who invited Kathryn to be a committee member for Western’s Relay. All three of us will be there and I have asked my Mom to be there as well. You are all invited of course.
I have also been asked to speak at the luminary ceremony for the Tacoma Relay. With both Scott and Richard there I should do fine. Kathryn will also be there to comfort me and give me courage.
Breakfast was perfect. My friend goes in next week for her radiation set up. The mask, the measurements, and the tattoos. They are all part of the package. I wished her well and asked her to please keep me informed. I know it is easy to say you will but hard to actually do it when you are in this position. I will make sure I contact others who would know if she doesn’t’ give me a call.
Today also marks 17 weeks since Kathryn passed away. It is crazy to count but every Thursday is a day to remember that quiet morning. Some Thursdays go by just fine and others… well they are more tearful. For today I feel tearful but my own health is almost normal so I will take it and run. I will be productive starting now.
Have a wonderful day.