Words to Share 3-19-12
Gracious and Strong are two words I heard today. Yesterday is was mature and inspiring. The term unconditional love. Living in the moment and focusing on bright outcomes in dark times.
We are gracious and strong. Well, our strength comes from the people around us and our thoughts of Kathryn. We have so many wonderful people around that we know we never need to be alone or feel alone or be afraid to feel or share our feelings. You, yes you reading this blog, have given us strength which allows us to be gracious. We also get our strength from dear sweet Kathryn. We know that she would want us to find our happiness and live our lives to the fullest. Wanting to please her and gives us strength.
And the expression coming from an ICU nurse that cared for Kathryn “living in the moment and focusing on bright outcomes in dark times” is what we did. We never focused on the negative of cancer or our situation. We always looked forward to things getting better and enjoying the time we had. We did our best to make every moment happy. Why would you waste even a second not enjoying each other especially if you may not have that much time left? I believe our positive outlook on life allowed Kathryn to live. Not focusing on the negative gave her time to enjoy life. I’m a true believer that our lives are what we make them. We can focus on the negative and be depressed or we can choose to focus on the good things we have and live happy lives. Right now it would be real easy for me to lay on the couch and cry all day. Today I almost let it get to me. I was invited to lunch with a group of people from my Luther League. This is a group from church from back when we were all teens. I almost didn’t go but I finally got myself together and went. I’m so glad I did. I had a wonderful time. It was great to see everyone. We talked about old times and new. It was all good positive talk. Well expect for your mean talk Terri (Ha Ha). I will tell you that most people don’t enjoy being around negativity or complaining. Kathryn was never negative and she never complained. People loved to be around her because of her positive attitude. She didn’t dwell on her situation but focused on the positive things in life. She was a delight to be around. Even in the dark times that cancer can bring we found light and laughter. I can’t think of a single time at the clinic that we didn’t laugh. Teasing the nurses is one of the things we did well.
Unconditional love. I’m so proud of us as a family to have unconditional love for one another. People have been blown away at the way we handled our situation. As far as any of us are concerned it is just what you do. We are family and we would not leave a family member alone or with out care. We would not consider giving up. We would not think about separating during this time. Not only did Kathryn need us but we needed each other. We all played a part in this. We each had a special roll that needed to be done. Not one person was more important than the other nor one job more important than another. We had to work as a team “Team Bradley.”
We have been called mature for the way we handled Kathryn’s death and I think that comes from faith. Our faith that Kathryn’s spirit is still with us and that she is in a better place allows us to find comfort which allows us to be mature.
I know that Kathryn has inspired so many and now I know our family has too. I hope we inspire others to find the good in life even in the darkest of times. I hope we have inspired others to love unconditionally. I hope we have inspired people to realize that life can be cut short and enjoying time with the people you love is more important than making that extra dollar or working that extra hour.
I hope the world is a better place for those who shared time with Kathryn or have learned through her experience and ours.